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Alan Barsky2
@Alan Barsky2
08/19/17 09:13:41PM
14 posts
Personality Styles Expert

RE: Personality Styles Trainer:

Douglas has assessed hundreds of clients of mine over the years, and is right on target, making my job so much easier.    And thanks to friends like Ted, who help me with my spelling, making my message so much clearer.    Thanks, Ted.

Alan Barsky2
@Alan Barsky2
08/19/17 09:01:24PM
14 posts
Personality Styles Expert

Juan, I work with a seriously talented and successful "Personality Styles" coach who can absolutely help you. He also has a strong business background.  His name is Douglas Rosestone and I can tell you quite a bit about it directly and in detail. He has assed hundreds of clients of mine over the years, and is right on target, making my job so much easier. My email is alanbarsky@mac.com 

 

Alan Barsky2
@Alan Barsky2
08/19/17 08:51:44PM
14 posts
referral for santa monica, ca

I am also looking for a referral for a hypnotherapist who can work with a weight loss client of mine who lives half time in Santa Monica and half the time here in San Francisco.   Please also let me know.  at alanbarsky@mac.com

Alan Barsky2
@Alan Barsky2
02/25/17 07:32:47PM
14 posts
A Rose/Fascist by any other name...
Barry Neale:
Another useful strategy which often more usable than the above is relabeling going in the other direction. For example. Client thinks they are depressed. Depression is hard to solve, right? I mean it's a big problem and it's going to take a lot of hard work and soul searching. (according to the client) After listening to their story you might say.... "You're not depressed you're just bored" And you show that they are feeling this way because XYZ. The point of this is simple. Boredom is much easier to solve than depression (in the eyes of the client) This can be adapted to all sorts of "heavy" issues. regards Barry

 
Boredom. Sigh. That is the one thing that truly puzzles me. Not the heavy duty loops some of my clients get caught in, no problem--but boredom!?! I look outside and see the wind blow the trees, I wonder about the mysteries of life with my every breath, I count the many things I am interested in, and really try to see the world from my client's map/understanding. I can understand the weirdest neurosis, but with boredom, I hardly know where to begin with them. 
 

Alan Barsky2
@Alan Barsky2
02/24/17 12:25:50PM
14 posts

I would also include a few sentences reinforcing what they are doing with the other professionals that are included in this package. It unifies the work, the other professionals will appreciate it, you now become the center, etc.

Alan Barsky2
@Alan Barsky2
02/24/17 11:56:27AM
14 posts

RE: Michael Ellner's suggestion: for some strange reason that Brian Eno album is on youtube for free.         

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vNwYtllyt3Q

Alan Barsky2
@Alan Barsky2
08/11/16 09:43:03PM
14 posts
What is your solution to clients who make appointments but then cancel?

I no longer have no shows, since I follow this sequence.

In making the appointment, I send them directions to find my place (not always easy to find—GPS can’t locate my place, cell phone sketchy), a list of policies, and in the subject line:    please confirm appt.

When they confirm that by returning the email, they have committed.

Then, the night before, I send to each client, a reminder with time and date.

Other hypnotists tell me how they would never take the time/whatever, to do that, yet, I have almost no,  no shows, so for me it is time well invested.

Sometimes, if I think they might be squirrely, I send out their reminders on Sunday night for the week ahead. If they are going to change, they take advantage and do it then.

With the following three professions, I tell them up front that I understand last minute changes happen in your profession, so feel free to simply pay me, and you can reschedule last minute at any time. It is only about money/time. And for lawyers, advertising creative directors and hedge fund guys (with more money than time), all three seem to get it and it works out fine for both of us.

Alan Barsky2
@Alan Barsky2
07/31/16 12:37:07PM
14 posts
What is your favorite memory of a client AHA! moment?

Last year a woman came to get rid of her gambling addiction. We quickly figured out what it was attached to in her life, and in an interactive trance, she got through it. After that, when a client normally is just coming up slowly, she got up ad announced she was so full of energy, and felt that such a burden had been lifted off her shoulders, that she was excited, and so, I had her run around our fishpond in the back yard. Around and around she ran, occasionally lifting her arms in the air and shouting "Hooray!"

 

(I checked in with her two months later, and she changed many things in her life that were being held back by that gambling addiction that was now gone. A number of doors ad roads opened up for her.)

Alan Barsky2
@Alan Barsky2
07/30/16 05:11:54PM
14 posts
Sessions in Client's homes - Yea or Nay?

Occasionally I get asked if I do house calls (to their house or office).

I simply say, that "Yes, but I charge twice the price". Almost always, they change their mind. Occasionally some say "OK", but since they were paying twice the price, they paid attention.

I have made exceptions for a session at a hospital, or other conditions that keep them invalid. One of my favorite clients is 93, lives on an artistic houseboat, and is a delight. She tried driving to my place at first-twice-but for various (and humorous) reasons, better I go there.

Alan Barsky2
@Alan Barsky2
05/14/16 01:22:35PM
14 posts
NLP and Hypnosis

I learned and was certified in NLP way before I learned hypnosis. I can't imagine not using it as it is so natural a way of building rapore and communication.