Holly Stokes
@Holly Stokes
09/08/17 09:56:13AM
26 posts
Online addiction treatment ?

Firstly, to echo Daniel, the language does matter - is it an addiction or is it a habit that the person doesn't feel in control of - because its unconscious. When we move from a disease model 'addiction' to a behavior model ' habit' it creates new possibilities. 

Secondly with any habit change there can be multiple underlying factors involved. Yes you can tell the mind to stop the habit - but if its doing it for a reason, it will continue - despite what you told it to do - or it will pick up another habit to replace it. 

This is why I believe that aversion type therapy is not useful. I had a client come in who had seen other hypnotists for stop smoking - and they made it really disgusting - and laid on the guilt and then 'if you don't quit it will kill you' - and still she couldn't stop smoking. 

Using hypnosis - we found that the unconscious part of the mind in charge of the habit equated smoking with her dad and family connection, (her dad had died a few years back) so even fear of death was not enough to quell the longing for missing that relationship. 

Parts therapy and integration are extremely useful with any addiction or habit. Hypnosis style, you can use conference room and invite the parts involved to seat at the conference table, or in NLP fashion you can do the hands polarity and integration process. 

Ecology is key - have you addressed the underlying issues?  - do the parts of the unconscious mind know what to do instead? And have you help the parts involved to switch their focus or take on a new job? 

A few sessions can help you clear out the parts. Internet hypnosis works just as well as in person - via skype or zoom, you can work with people anywhere. 

I hope that helps. Check out youtube videos on NLP parts integration, we don't need hypnosis to actually get the change - but NLP and Hypnosis work very well together. 

Holly Stokes
@Holly Stokes
06/27/17 01:55:22PM
26 posts
Anyone have business insurance?

Hi folks, does anyone have business insurance for your practice, is there a company that you'd recommend? Hypnosis is not your average field. 

Also, Anyone doing retreats and have coverage for running the retreats? 

Holly Stokes
@Holly Stokes
04/11/17 08:25:15AM
26 posts
Child with anxiety regarding bees and wasps

I always teach my anxiety clients the Emotional Freedom Technique for a couple of reasons. 1) it gives them something to do so they now have control over the emotion, 2) when they know they can get out of the emotion, it addresses the secondary anxiety about having anxiety and 3) it can help them get out of an emotion in the moment that it happens. Its not of course a complete fix but really adds to the solution.

If you're unfamiliar with EFT, see the website www.emofree.com there are also free tutorials on youtube. There are a lot of claims about EFT - but I've found it most useful for draining out negative emotions in the moment (not so complete for changing belief systems as some claim).

Holly Stokes
@Holly Stokes
03/01/17 10:24:01AM
26 posts
How do you hypnotize intellectuals?

Very interesting thread, some great ideas here. I would echo the others that talk about the pretalk, and the pretalk is about getting buy in - getting people to agree and follow you. Great tips on that by the way.

In the pretalk you want to manage the expectations. Everyone has expectations about what hypnosis is and how they should feel from it. So if you help them know what to expect, then there is no pressure. Sometimes people can also get pre occupied with trying to figure out if they are hypnotized or not - which also takes them out of state. 

I like to explain, "hypnosis is about helping the automatic mind switch its focus. therapeutic hypnosis there is no blanking out or losing control, you are aware and awake the whole time and it can feel very similar to if you've meditated before. It can also feel as if you've missed a freeway exit, that your mind wanders in and out. That's normal, just bring it back to the sound of my voice. " I make a distinction between stage shows and therapeutic hypnosis - which also addresses the fears of the stage shows. (I know this is a big discussion in itself, but it simplifies it for what my clients need to know)

This pretalk takes the pressure off for people, it also helps them address the unspoken fear of being out of control - thus being able to relax. This expectation works well with 'Intellectuals ' too because it tells them they can just relax and go through the process. 

Also you might have to redirect the skeptic

Sometimes people can talk them out of their results, so at the end of the sesssion, I give people what to watch for and notice during the coming week. 

I also like to explain that "while changework can happen quickly it is also a process" - this alleviates the idea they need immediate results - and that their mind will continue to build on even the smallest of changes. 



Holly Stokes
@Holly Stokes
03/01/17 09:56:14AM
26 posts

Before approaching the medical industry, just be really clear with your verbiage, what services you are providing and how you approach them. 

Holly Stokes
@Holly Stokes
03/01/17 09:55:21AM
26 posts

You want to be really careful in your advertising to medical professionals, know your state laws about what you can or cannot advertise. In salt lake city, a local hypnotherapist was advertising pain management and approaching medical field- a nono in Utah. She was slapped with a fine and has since closed her practice. 

I just mention this because I think there is a little more risk in working with the medical field. Maybe that's why hypnotherapists don't feel like they can approach doctors and psychologists. 

Holly Stokes
@Holly Stokes
02/03/15 09:56:53PM
26 posts
. What are your best practices for client followups and retention?

Hi all, I'd love you to share your thoughts and best practices on client follow-up and retention. What do you do?

updated by @holly-stokes-the-brain-trainer: 09/04/15 03:32:53PM

Holly Stokes
@Holly Stokes
02/08/15 07:15:34PM
26 posts
Limitations of the Unconscious MInd in physical healing

Hi Melissa, Fascinating question. I think perhaps there is a question of definitions. When we talk about theUnconscious mind,what exactly are you referring to? I tend to use the term 'unconscious mind' to refer to the greater awareness of the whole mind, body, spirit system.

I agree with Michael E, that the unconscious is always doing the best it can do, but I also think sometimes it gets stuck and runs programs of the mind that not so useful.

For example, my friend had grown up chubby and when he started to work with NLP and Hypnosis, he used it to find the core issue behind overweight. What came to mind was a time when he was 9, he was bullied by a group of older kids and what he thought at the time was, "If only I were bigger, they couldn't pick on me." And from that point on, he grew overweight, his unconscious mind ran a program to get bigger to protect himself. It wasn't until he changed this original issue that he was able to lose the weight and keep it off.

Now this example also somewhat relates to the secondary gain issue. I find it useful to ask, what is the mind doing, WHY is it doing that - and how can we help it find a new strategy to get what it really wants. This approach tends to have better success rather than the classical hypnosis approach of telling the person what to do.

The unconscious mind is doing what its doing for a reason, what is the reason and how can we help it learn something new?

Coming back to the question of the unconscious mind. I see it as an interplay of interreactions. I would say they all affect each other. Our unconscious programs come from our history andthe beliefs we picked up from our history, like in the story of my friend.

Our memory files affect how our mind operates. Our UC mind is responsible for habits, cravings, impulses, self sabotage. I also think the body can affect the mind. There is research that shows physical exercise to be as effective for depression as medication. And of course medications biochemically impact causing people to think and feel better.

And I think the body can affect the UC programs as we experience new things in life and make new mental shifts. An example is the psychology process of flooding, where they take a person with a phobia and present them with their fear - flooding the system, so the person has the experience of having the fear but recognizing they are safe. (There are better ways to alleviate phobias though).

Fascinating question.

Melissa J. Roth said:

Before I get slammed for hi-jacking this discussion, let me remind you it is my discussion so I can derail it into whatever I please. :-)

We know the mind affects the body. And, we know the body affects the mind. But, where does the unconscious mind come into play? Does the body affect the UM also? We know the UM affects the body but does the body also affect the UM like it does the conscious mind? I think that is what this question comes down to.

Holly Stokes
@Holly Stokes
02/04/15 06:12:10AM
26 posts
Limitations of the Unconscious MInd in physical healing

What are the limitations of the physical body to heal disease and illness?

I think anything is possible and its a question for the individual, a case by case issue. To illustrate this Id like to share a case study and then talk about the usefulness of a multilayered approach.

I had a client who came in to clean up his diet and lose weight. So we got the cravings out of the way, he was eating better and feeling more healthy and energetic and I asked him, what do you want to work on now?

He said he had had a heart attack a year ago and he had been the to the Cardiologist and his ECG showed tissue death on the back of his heart.

Using hypnosis, we did some body communication with his heart, I asked, what is this all about?

He said, sadness.

What is the sadness about? I asked.

Sadness at the intolerance of the world. So many of my gay friends have been disowned from their families and treated poorly because of being gay.

I recognized that he needed higher insight, so we went to the spiritual level up to soul, seeing the human world down below and this is what he got.

I can see that the evolution of consciousness is larger than just my lifetime. As a whole we are becoming more tolerant and more compassionate. I have hope for humanity.

I had him bring the symbol of hope into his heart. We also did a parts integration with NLP. And because repetition is important, I made a CD which focused on repairing the heart damage so that he could listen to it everyday.

He did listen to it everyday for 3 months, and I followed up with him, hed had another ECG and told me the doctor said he had a totally healthy heart, the myocardial tissue and repaired itself. Thats just not supposed to happen in the Western Medical model.

That being said, illness and disease can be a complicated issue like weight loss. I think its useful to have a multi layered approach. And its different for each person, what is possible for one person may not be possible for another.

Ive been using a specific method with my clients to identify core issues. And I think a more methodological approach is better than classic hypnosis telling the mind body to do something. Its even more useful to find out WHY the body is doing what its doing.

So now in hypnosis, as part of the intake, around any issue I ask, is the cause of this issue spiritual, yes or no, is it mental, emotional, or biological body systems. That gives us a starting place. Heres the example ofwhere we might go foreach level:

Spiritual- Examples of spiritual issues are past life stuff and ancestral stuff. I had a client who was overweight and we found out she had a past life where she starved to death.

Mental has to do with the beliefs or mental blocks we pick up. Like, Im not good enough, like life is a place of suffering, etc.

Emotional has to do with stuffing emotions, we get cravings and poor behavioral habits through not processing and honoring emotions.

Physical /Biological - I certified as an herbalist in my 20s and we had fantastic stories of people healing all kinds of things. A basic premise was, if you give the body what it needs, the body will heal itself. If you look around online, there are countless stories of people curing all kinds of illnesses with juicing, green drinks, and by cleaning up their diet.

Now that being said, I think the reasons people develop illnesses are varied and all across the board. I had one client that we looked at his allergy to corn, (corn additives are everywhere and he had to be extremely careful ) but at the soul level he said he was learning discipline and so it worked for him. And then Michael Newton in his book mentions souls picking bodies genetically predisposed to illness for the experience of illness in this lifetime.

And of course when its your time to go its your time to go and disease is the #1 ticket out of this place.

Oh, my heart client by the way is still doing great (the case study was about 5 years ago, hes back teaching yoga and is about 74).

Id love to hear yalls stories as Im sure everyone out there has dramatic stories of healing.

Holly Stokes
@Holly Stokes
11/01/14 02:47:21AM
26 posts
The 'Essence' of Hypnosis

Well, I don't know that it is so much about following instructions. But maybe that's because of my NLP background. I think what is essential is the willingness to change, the readiness to change and the agreement for making the change. Classical hypnosis is the hypnotherapist telling the other person what to do, but the problem is - the hypnotee's mind is doing what its doing for a reason.

I think that its the hypnotherapist's job to see the puzzle of what is the mind doing, what does it need to do instead and then identify the learning needed to make a change in perspective. The biggest change we can make is a change in perception.

Maybe these are two questions: What is essential to hypnosis? and What is essential to change?

In regards to hypnosis, there are some commonly accepted aspects, such as a "trance" state, but the trance state is not essential to change. We can get deep level change with other methods as well without trance. And I've known some hypnotherapists that are able to induce trance, but then are not effective in helping the client make a change.

I think the field of hypnosis is shifting from the traditional model of the hypnotherapist telling the hypnotee what to do to a more integrated approach of working with the mind (rather than bullying it) to help it make its own changes.