4 year old who doesn't speak

Created: 05/25/17 07:54:48AM by ik-a

Last Update: 05/25/17 03:20:50PM by Barry Neale
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05/25/17 07:54:48AM

271 posts

Hi there,

There is a four year old boy who is not mentally ill who understands everything that is being said to him at home and at school, does not speak a single word. Not one. The parents went to every specialist they can and they just tell them that he's too young.

The parents want their son to speak. To start speaking.

What do you think? Any tips appreciated!

Barry Neale

05/25/17 09:49:02AM

3,187 posts


I have come across several instances of this in recent years (not as clients)

In each case they had older siblings who talked for them AND (this is the biggie) they were constantly given an ipad to "keep them quiet".

My recommendation was to take the ipad away and stop letting the older kids talk for them.

Personally I don't think this is a case for hypnosis, more like family therapy/coaching.




05/25/17 10:25:09AM

271 posts

Thanks Barry! 

Graham Old

05/25/17 12:11:23PM

2,251 posts

Completely agree with, Barry.

Additionally, I never work with a child based on what the parent wants.

Remove pacifiers if still used

Turn off the TV

Decrease the level to which others speak for the child

Keep seeing the specialists. (Though Im not sure what exactly they are saying hes too young for.)

Simon Tebbenham

05/25/17 12:17:16PM

392 posts

There's also a case for multimedia expanding knowledge and vocabulary. There are even some apps designed to encourage vocalising and feedback!

Then there's a whole host of possible medical stuff which can be overlooked. Very recently I heard a renowned primary school educator/guru tell of his son's first words at much older than 4 (6 I think he said). Turns out there was a restriction that made it difficult for him to breathe, let alone talk - that went right under the radar. And he also said that he communicated through his older sibling - who understood the mutterings and would act as translator.

I also heard that multi-lingual environments can often delay communication in toddlers, not sure if it's true though.


Barry Neale

05/25/17 03:20:50PM

3,187 posts

Of course it could be that the child is German.



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