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Created: 05/09/19 05:42:09AM by don-g

Last Update: 05/09/19 05:42:09AM by Don G.
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Don G.
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05/09/19 05:42:09AM

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Here is a cut and paste of a Hypnothoughts post from 2001 that the Powers that Be would NEVER allow on their main FB page because they would consider it to be "spam." I've already been told more than once to knock it off when i tried to put up something like this over there. But there has to be a place for posts such as this -- and there are a lot more like this one  over here!

 


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It wasn't always this beautiful! Professor Irving Singer, in a free online MIT course entitled, Philosophy of Love in the Western world, states that romantic love as we know it today was practically unheard of in Western culture until it became popularized by wandering French troubadors eight hundred years ago, and further amplified by the invention of the printing press, which publicized the great works of romantic literature such as Shakespeare's Romeo and Julietand Antony and Cleopatra ("Hark! What light through yonder window breaks? It is the East, and Juliet is the Sun!" or,"Shall I abide in this dull world which , in thy absence,is no better than a stye?*).


With this model held up for all to see, the prevailing expectations of what it feels like to be "in love" evolved in an ever more extreme direction. For many years, one way to write a new hit song was to describe the experience of being in love in more glowing terms than the songs which were popular at the moment.The reviewer of the 1955 movie,Love is a Many Splendored Thing,writing inThe Independenton February 8, 2010, stated: "Remember the lyric: 'Once, on a high and windy hill, two lovers kissed, and the world stood still. . . .' It still makes my knees weak." Today, as products of a culture which glorifies romantic love, we tend to view human experience through these cultural lenses, and choose bits from history which confirm these stereotypes. However, anthropologists are fond of pointing out that after a few years, couples who marry for love are just about as happy as couples who tie the knot in  cultures where marriages are arranged.

 

The power of suggestion can do more than simply make you feel weak in the knees. In Victorian times, women were considered to be such delicate creatures that they were expected to faint if the air in a room suddenly became stuffy, or if they were suddenly and unexpectedly kissed by someone to whom they had become attracted -- and many did!


The effect of suggestion and imitation in producing such a high degree of organismic involvement became more dramatically evident shortly after World War II, when the young crooner Frank Sinatra caused legions of teen-age "bobby-soxers" to swoon when he hit his high notes.It is therefore possible to conclude thatthe experience of "falling in love"as we know it today, and all that goes with it, is also an effect of social modeling andthe power of suggestion.


Suggestion has the power to teach behavior as well as to change it. In 1933, Herbert Blumerfound that when moviegoing reached its height, many people said that they firstlearned how to kiss by watching motion pictures.Many people probably still pick up a few pointers occasionally, both from motion pictures themselves and from many  YouTube complations.


RememberRomeo and Juliet,andAntony and Cleopatra?We now have searchable data bases of Internet pornography such as XNXX, YouPorn, and FetLife, which contain literally millions of items, and almost anyone in the world can upload to them. The entries are frequently ranked in terms of populatiry, so that the submissions which are viewed most often rise to the top. Some of these data bases require no fees, passwords, or proof of age, and are supported entirely by advertising.

Will today's teen-agers and young adults learn sexual behavior by watching porn, in much the same manner that people of earlier generations learned how to kiss by watching motion pictures? If the past is any guide, it wo Tuld not be unreasonable to expect that the almost unlimited access to free Internet pornography in the Twenty-First Century will enable imitation and the power of suggestion to modify the way couples both engage in and experiencesexual behavior, in much the same way that the invention of the printing press centuries before influenced the manner in which people engage in and experience romantic love.This time, however, the changes will depend not upon the imagination of a few gifted writers and balladeers, but upon the pooled experience of the entire human race.

If we are indeed in the midst of such a profound cultural change, and if one picture is worth a thousand words, then to quote from the movie, All About Eve, "Hold on to your seat belts. It's going to be a bumpy night!"

Having grown up in a culture which accepts the reality of romantic love, I believe that the emerging sub-culture of sexting and internet pornography has its priorities reversed. Magazines are full of pictures of women who could technically be described as beautiful. But beauty is "only skin deep," as my mother used to say. You do not love a woman becuse she is beautiful. A woman is beautiful because she is loved! When a woman is trulyloved, physical beauty becomes irrelevant.-- and of course, similar sentiments can be expressed for men and for same-sex couples as well.


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updated by @don-g: 05/09/19 11:19:36AM

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