Prof. Irving Singer, in a free online MIT course entitled,Philosophy of Love in the Western world, states that romantic love as we know it today was practically unheard of in Western culture until it became popularized by wandering French troubadors eight hundred years ago, and further amplified by the invention of the printing press, which publicized the great works of romantic literature such as Shakespeare'sRomeo and JulietandAntony and Cleopatra.
With this model held up for all to see, the prevailing expectations of what it feels like to be "in love" evolved in an ever more extreme direction. Modeling andthe power of suggestiondid the rest. For many years, one way to write a new hit song was to describe the experience of being in love in more glowing terms than the songs which were popular at the moment.The reviewer of the 1955 movie,Love is a Many Splendored Thing,writing inThe Independenton February 8, 2010, stated: "Remember the lyric: 'Once, on a high and windy hill, two lovers kissed, and the world stood still. . . .' It still makes my knees weak."
But the power of suggestion can do more than simply make you feel weak in the knees. In Victorian times, women were considered to be such delicate creatures that they were expected to faint if the air in a room suddenly became stuffy, or if they were suddenly and unexpectedly kissed by someone to whom they had become attracted -- and many did. The effect of suggestion and imitation in producing such a high degree of organismic involvement became more dramatically evident shortly after World War II, when the young crooner Frank Sinatra caused legions of teen-age "bobby-soxers" to swoon when he hit his high notes.
Suggestion has the power to teach behavior as well as to change it. In 1933, Herbert Blumerfound that when moviegoing reached its height, many people said that they firstlearned how to kiss by watching motion pictures.Thus, it is plausible to speculate that the modeling effect of Internet pornography (which, studies tell us, most males and many females have seen at one time or another, and some a lot more than others) will gradually come to exert a determining influence over prevailing pattern ofexpectations and experiences concerning thephysicalexpression of lovemaking in the adult population as a whole.
Currently, sexual modeling is often carried on by free sites on the Internet, such aswww.xnxx.com.This is a searchable data base of literally tens of thousands of videos, some of which have been uploaded by the viewers themselves, with varying degrees of taste and professionalism. The videos are ranked by viewers according to their popularity. The site is free of charge and does not require a password. Here are some examples of sexual orgasmic responsiveness which is currently being modeled by women at this site:Incredibly Passionate Real Sex Scene,Amateur Rona Teen Auditions for New Porno,homemade video multiple orgasm,and last (butcertainlynot least!)loudest, best orgasm ever, Many women are also willing to demonstrate their proficiency competitively in various forms oforgasm compilation, in returnfor increased viewership and approval ratings.
If the history of other forms of sexual modeling and expectation-setting is any guide, the uninhibited ecstasy in sexual climax and lovemaking styles which is modeled on sites like these and similar ones such asyouporn.comcan be expected to gradually alter the norm of what is expected -- and therefore,experienced-- by an increasing number of couples in the population as a whole.
Nevertheless, mass communication is still no substitute for suggestion which is individually composed. When hyperempiric suggestion is provideddirectly,as described in Eugene D. Alexander'sHyerSex: Pathways to Ecstasy,which is currently in its third edition,responsive and consenting couples are often able to duplicate -- and occasionally even exceed -- what is portrayed on sites such as these, without waiting for the rest of society to catch up.